Inspired by my conversation with author and coach Becca Eve Young about her new memoir about the ‘Messy Middle’ of her life- and where it has taken her!

We all know the feeling of doing everything right—checking every box, hitting every milestone, building the life that looks perfect on paper—only to wake up one day and realize we’re seriously unfulfilled.

For some women, that realization comes quietly.
For others, it arrives like a tidal wave.

But for Becca, it came as a full-life collapse. Her career, marriage, identity, and the loss of her father were all unraveling at once. And yet, through this, she discovered something she never expected:

Her deepest awakening lived inside the mess.

This is her story. And it mirrors so many of the women I work with. It’s raw, it’s spiritual, it’s human. And it offers a powerful lens for anyone navigating a season of transition, uncertainty, or big-time change.

The Life That Looked Perfect, But Felt Empty

Before the cracks appeared, Becca’s life looked like the modern success story:

• A thriving corporate career
• A relationship of 15 years
• A beautiful home
• A lifestyle built on hard work and “doing what you’re supposed to do”

She had risen through the ranks and found herself flying to New York, earning an MBA, presenting in boardrooms, and helping take a company public. From the outside, she was the woman who had it all figured out.

Inside, she was suffocating.

She described it as performing: showing up in heels, delivering at a high level, but feeling unseen, unheard, disconnected from her true self, and increasingly numb.

And then, almost as if the universe decided to intervene, everything began to fall apart:

• Her marriage began dissolving
• Her father was dying
• A close friend died by suicide
• Her company environment turned toxic
• She felt herself breaking emotionally and spiritually

“Everything I had been avoiding just came crashing down,” she said.

When the CEO of her company sent one last demeaning email – on July 4th, of all days – she finally broke. She drafted that email. The one you write and save in drafts.

Except she hit send.

That was it! The moment changed everything.

A New Beginning and a Messy Middle – On a Dirt Road in Mexico

Her resignation led to an unexpected six-month work assignment in Mexico.
She said yes.
And then COVID hit.

Suddenly, she found herself stranded in a remote desert town of a few hundred people.
No travel.
Absolutely no way back home.
No noise.
And no distractions.
Just herself.

It was the first time in her adult life that she had ever lived alone, or even been alone.

And in that silence, away from the “shoulds,” the societal scripts, and the constant comparison, she finally heard something she had been unable to hear for decades:

Her own voice.

She walked along a loop every morning without AirPods or distractions.
And she sat on a rooftop under the sky.
She turned off the news.
And she began meditating—messy, uncomfortable meditation.
She read The Power of Now and A New Earth.
And she began to see how much of her life had been shaped by programming outside of herself.

“It was all so loud,” she said.
“The thoughts telling me I wasn’t enough. I couldn’t hear myself until everything else went quiet.”

In that stillness, she began the journey home to herself.

The Messy Middle No One Talks About

Becca’s memoir is called It’s Gonna Get Messy. And for good reason.

Solitude didn’t magically heal her. But it was the very thing that cracked her open.
With awareness came so many realizations: her grief, self-betrayal, old patterns, codependency, and years of avoiding her own needs.

“It wasn’t pretty,” she laughed. “But it was necessary.”

She started choosing herself in small ways:

• Dining alone, even though it gave her anxiety
• Taking long, silent walks in solitude
• Sitting still instead of escaping into busyness

And slowly, she realized:

Solitude wasn’t loneliness.
It was exactly what she needed to rediscover her voice.

A Spiritual Awakening: The Moment Everything Shifted

Thirty days after her father passed, Becca attended a sound healing under the full moon. She asked, out loud:

“If you’re there… show me.”

What happened next changed her life.

She felt a hand gently touch her forehead. It was her father’s signature gesture.
She lifted out of her body and into pure consciousness.
She was light and he was light.
They were together in a place beyond form.

“Dad… is this what we are?”
“Yes.”
“Aren’t we so beautiful?”

When she asked, “Can I stay?” she felt herself pulled back into her body, like slipping into a wetsuit. Heavy. Dense. Human.

It marked the beginning of a massive spiritual and existential transformation.

And it sent her searching for that consciousness again through plant medicine, retreats, silence, nature, and deep inner work.

The Messy Middle: Finding Her True Path And Trusting It

Over the next few years, her intuition grew sharper. Signs and synchronicities multiplied. And eventually, she realized:

Her path was not in the corporate world.
It was not in the life she’d been performing.
Her path was in Mexico: writing, coaching, creating, guiding.

She sold everything.
Got on a plane.
And didn’t look back.

Her book was released on September 30th—the fifth anniversary of her father’s passing.

“Of course it was that day,” she said. “Of course!”

The Lens She Offers Us Now: Everything Is Happening For You

I closed the interview by asking Becca what lens she would offer other women navigating transitions.

Her answer was powerful:

“The mess is the magic.
Life isn’t happening to you—
You’re creating it.
And it’s trying to show you where you’re off track.”

She explained:

• The falling apart is the invitation.
• The discomfort is the guide.
• The emotions are the compass.
• And the only way out is through—feeling it fully, not bypassing, numbing, or distracting.

This is the lens of surrender and of allowing the mess to teach you.

Why Her Story About the ‘Messy Middle’ Matters for You

Not all of us will have a moment in the Mexican desert.
Not all of us will experience a mystical encounter with a parent who has passed.

But all of us will face seasons where life feels messy, uncertain, or seriously out of alignment.

Becca’s story is not a blueprint. It’s a permission slip, and a reminder that:

• You can start over at any moment.
• Your intuition is real, and wiser than you think.
• Solitude can be the beginning of everything.
• Your mess is not a sign you’re failing; it’s a sign you’re awakening.
• You are more guided than you can ever possibly know.

And that sometimes, life has to fall apart so it can rebuild itself in a way that finally feels true.

My Take on Becca’s Story of Awakening

Becca’s story is profoundly beautiful. You can watch the video podcast linked below, and you will see me bawling my eyes out as she recalls some of her vivid and life-altering experiences over the past 5 years.

There is something to be said for energy! And all I can tell you is that the energy she speaks from is rare and palpable. She’s a force! And a testament to the power of allowing, surrender, and embodying enormous strength. All while having the courage to truly discover her own path.

I think the way she agreed to the assignment in Mexico suggests she was co-conspiring with the universe and shows she’s a very wise old soul who knew what was needed.

I loved what she said at the end of our talk: not to look to her for a blueprint, but to recognize that you have your own, as unique as your fingerprint. And we are here to follow our own inner path to our true voice all the way.

When I think about how her story fits into The New Lens Method,  it’s so powerful for the heart-led transformation piece. She moves from her head to her heart in her journey.

And she tells the story from her heart, and it’s powerful (Trust me!!). I think that her book is going to change many, many lives.

More About Becca Eve Young:

Becca Eve Young is a former corporate strategist turned soulful storyteller, devoted to the art of becoming. After a plot twist (or five), she walked away from the societal shoulds to reclaim her voice.

Her work lives at the raw intersections of growth, healing, and reinvention—delivered with humor, heart, and a spiritual spark.

When she’s not guiding others through identity shifts in their career and finding meaning in the messiness of life, you’ll find her barefoot on a surfboard, writing in cozy cafes, and chasing the kind of freedom you can feel in your bones.

Her debut book, “It’s Gonna Get Messy,” was released on September 30th, a profound supernatural true story of ditching the societal script and becoming your most soulful, authentic self.

Learn more about Becca and order her new book here!