The New Lens Method all started with this quote:  “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are,” by Anaïs Nin.

For over 20 years, I worked as an optometrist. Every day, I watched people’s faces light up as they tried on a new prescription that suddenly brought the world into focus. A fuzzy blur became sharp edges, defined colors, and new possibilities.

One of my favorite parts of optometry was that the change happened instantly.

A patient might sit down saying, “I can’t see the board,” or “I can’t see the leaves on the trees,” and then, CLICK, the right prescription brought everything into focus. Their whole face lit up!.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that the same thing can happen internally.

When we change the way we see something —ourselves, another person, or a situation —the shift can be just as immediate. A brand new clarity or recognition arrives in an instant.

Coaching Insight:

And what I’ve learned since stepping into coaching is this: the most powerful prescription you can ever receive is the one you give yourself—the lens through which you see your life.

Most of us walk through life wearing lenses shaped by the past. These lenses are shaped by childhood experiences, heartbreaks, cultural expectations, and just ongoing self-doubts. They can cause us to repeat the same patterns when it comes to love, work, and self-worth.

Learn more on this here.

Does this sound familiar to you? That has definitely been my trend over the years…

That’s why I created The New Lens Method™. It’s a framework to help women release what clouds their vision, reconnect with their authentic truth, and embody the life and love they deeply desire.

What’s so fascinating about the change in perspective? It HAPPENS FAST!

This reminds me of Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

He teaches that we make split-second judgments (“thin slicing”) that can be incredibly accurate, or deeply biased, depending on our internal lens. He says, “There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis.”

The most relatable part of his theory is that he shows how a moment of insight can instantly change how you see a person, situation, or possibility.

Has this happened to you? In coaching, I often see this when a client suddenly realizes, ‘Wait, I’ve been seeing myself through my ex’s lens all along.’ Or, they realize they’ve been seeing love relationships through their parents’ lens.

When they shift their perspective, the impact is immediate.

That’s a Blink moment. And everything changes.

I’ve watched this happen countless times, with clients and in my own life.

What Is The New Lens Method™?

The New Lens Method is a four-pillar framework that guides you from old imprints all the way to radiant embodiment. Here are the four steps:

1. Heart-Led Transformation
2. Empowered Vision
3. Authentic Integration
4. Radiant Embodiment

Each pillar offers both a shift in perspective and tools that help you live into it. Together, they create lasting change, not by forcing themselves into a new life, but by learning to see through a new lens.

As you move through the pillars, you begin to recognize more clearly your old lens, and the potential for a much more hopeful future is revealed as you visualize, integrate, and embody the future you see.

Pillar One of The New Lens Method: Heart-Led Transformation

Most of us carry hidden imprints that include disappointments, fears, and unresolved emotions from our parents, critical teachers’ words, feelings of rejection from the past, the heartbreak that shaped our expectations in love, and cultural narratives that told us what we “should” want.

These imprints become the lenses through which we unconsciously view the world.

Read more about this here.

Heart-Led Transformation is about softening into awareness and compassion so that the client can release the beliefs attached to this imprint.

I learned this lesson firsthand in 2018 at a Byron Katie workshop in Ojai, California.

At the time, my 16-year-old daughter had moved to live with her dad in Canada. I was devastated. I believed she should be with me, and that belief was creating endless suffering for me.

Through Byron Katie’s process (“The Work”), I realized my thoughts weren’t true. The Work is a process of questioning your beliefs and turning them around until you ultimately see that many of your thoughts and beliefs are not true.

The truth was, she belonged exactly where she was. The moment I saw that, everything changed. I felt peace for her, for me, for our relationship.

It was the first time I truly experienced what happens when you release a lens (or belief) that no longer serves you.

Instead of forcing change through willpower, this idea invites us to pause and notice: What lens am I seeing this through?  Does it represent the truth? Or is it impacted by stories and beliefs in my mind?

The lens that you wear creates the entire story of the life you live. The nuances in your lenses color the world, and this impacts your thoughts and feelings at every level. More importantly, this affects the vibration where you resonate.

And this is important! As we know from Abraham Hicks, the law of attraction is very real. More on that later…

But I have great news: Coaching works very effectively here.

The New Lens Method Practice: Getting to Know Your Old Lens

• Write down one area of life where you feel stuck (love, career, self-worth).
• Ask: What story am I telling myself here? Where did this story come from?
• Then gently ask: Is it time to release this lens? What would I see without it?

Example: A woman who had always thought, “I’m too much for men,” realized this lens stemmed from teenage rejection. Through compassion, she released it, and her love life shifted.

A sampling of references that I use with clients that are useful for reframing old lenses that no longer serve:

• Eckhart Tolle (The Power of Now)
• “What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am.”
  • Tolle’s work is so helpful in the process of beginning to recognize the lenses that you are wearing. To modify his statement, try this: The ‘lens I wear’ didn’t all come from me. It carries stories from the past. And I have the power to change it.

• Byron Katie (Loving What Is)
  • No one has helped me more, as I mentioned above. She has helped me tremendously to understand myself, my feelings, my thoughts, etc., and clients get real results from her work.
• Rumi

• “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
  • In taking a look at the lenses you’ve been wearing, you may experience unexpected waves of compassion for yourself – especially for having to wear those lenses for so long! There is a deepening of healing that can occur, along with greater understanding and awareness.

An important part of this phase is also creating space for a client to observe their thoughts and beliefs.

Pillar Two: Empowered Vision

Once we release the old, we create space for the new. Empowered Vision is about seeing your desires not as distant dreams, but as possibilities waiting to come into focus.

This is where you align with your future self—the version of you who already lives the life you long for.

Learn more about your future self here.

Practice: The Future Self Visualization

• Close your eyes and imagine the woman you are five years from now.
• What does she see when she looks in the mirror?
• How does she carry herself when she enters a room?
• What has she said yes to? What has she finally said no to?

Write down what she tells you. This becomes your new lens.

Example: A client envisioned her “future self” standing tall, glowing, surrounded by friends who celebrated her. That vision helped her let go of a draining relationship and step into a community that matched her energy.

Teachers who inspire my work in this section:

• Dr. Joe Dispenza (Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself)
• “To be empowered—to be free, to be unlimited, to be creative, to be genius, to be divine — that is who you are… Once you feel this way, memorize this feeling; remember this feeling. This is who you really are.” He teaches us to allow higher feelings and to bring them into our orbit.

• Lisa Feldman Barrett (How Emotions Are Made)
• “Emotions are not reactions to the world; they are your constructions of the world.” Again, we can visualize and create what we want to see. Very empowering work.

• Maya Raichoora (Visualise: Think, Feel, Perform Like the Top 1% )
• “You can use your mind to worry, stress, and overthink, or you can use it to believe, create, and focus. The choice is yours.” We can use our minds as allies and create the world we want to see.

We’re here to dream big! And in doing so, we can open ourselves up to the emotions that are right there for us.

Pillar Three of The New Lens Method: Authentic Integration

“Authenticity means erasing the gap between what you firmly believe inside and what you reveal to the outside world.” — Adam Grant.

Shifts in vision are powerful, but they only create change when we live them. Authentic Integration is when you bring everything together and start practicing embodying the new lens in daily life.

This pillar is about alignment: learning to say yes to what serves you, no to what drains you, and being your authentic self in all aspects of life, including relationships, work, and community.

Authentic integration is very personal. Some people integrate actively, by doing art projects, writing in a journal, meditation, etc. It takes courage and practice to open yourself up to becoming someone new.

Practice: Soulful Boundaries

• Ask yourself: Where am I giving away my power?
• Notice one place you feel resentment. That’s often a clue.
• Practice setting a gentle but firm boundary. (Example: “I’d love to help, but I need to rest tonight.”)

• • Emotional and energetic sovereignty are part of Authentic Integration.

Pillar Four: Radiant Embodiment

“Every cell in your body has a direct relationship with Creative Life Force … When you feel joy, all the circuits are open … My body knows what to do.”
— Abraham Hicks

This is the lens where everything comes together. When you release old patterns, claim your vision, and live authentically, you step into Radiant Embodiment.

It’s not just about thinking differently, it’s about walking through life differently. You begin to glow with a magnetic energy that draws opportunities, love, and abundance toward you.

Teachers who inspire my work in this section:

• “Embodiment means becoming so present in your body that you can hear the whisper of your soul.”
  — Sarah Blondin, Heart Minded

• The Tao Te Ching (Lao Tzu)  “At the center of your being, you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” I love the Tao and find it so incredibly helpful. There is an energy of peace and potentiality that can help fuel embodiment. **Read one of my favorites, I wrote about the Tao here.

• Embodiment isn’t about controlling the body. It’s about inhabiting it fully.”
  — Philip Shepherd, Radical Wholeness

Practice: Embody the Glow

• Each morning, stand in front of a mirror.
• Imagine yourself surrounded by golden light, radiating from your chest outward.
• Speak aloud: I walk with a golden glow. I am magnetic. I embody my highest self.

The New Lens Method isn’t about pretending; it’s about training your body and energy to become the highest version of yourself.

In my own journey, this final pillar— embodiment—was where everything clicked.
After years of learning, healing, and visualizing, it wasn’t until I practiced showing up daily as my future self that things began to change quickly.

It’s not theory, it’s lived energy. And when your energy, heart, and mind are aligned, your vibration becomes your new lens. You start attracting people and experiences that mirror your new frequency of worthiness, love, and abundance.

Why The New Lens Method Matters

When you shift your lens, you shift your life.

• In love, you move from scarcity to worthiness.
• In work, you move from burnout to alignment.
• In leadership, you move from pleasing others to authentic power.

The New Lens Method™ isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about lasting change—the kind that comes when you stop trying to fix your life from the outside in, and instead change the way you see from the inside out.

Your Invitation:

You don’t need to do it all today. You can begin right now with one simple question:

👉 What lens am I looking through in this moment?

Every woman I’ve worked with begins her journey thinking she needs to fix something about her life. What she really needs is to see something differently.

You are not broken—you are simply wearing a lens that was shaped by old stories.
The moment you choose a new one, you begin to see a completely new world reflected back to you.

When you learn to see yourself through a new lens, you don’t just see differently. You become different. You embody the woman who already holds the life and love you desire.

That is the power of The New Lens Method™.

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