Sometimes, while daydreaming, do you ever get a glimpse of a higher version of yourself?

You catch a glimpse of the woman you’re becoming. How does she seem for you? For me, she feels powerful, grounded, radiant in a way that doesn’t demand attention but naturally draws it.

Maybe you’ve seen her in a dream, during a journaling session, or while walking alone, lost in thought.

She isn’t far away. In fact, she’s already within you.

In this post, I want to share what I’ve learned—personally and professionally—about the process of becoming her. Not through hustle, but through alignment. Not by fixing yourself, but by remembering who you truly are.

A Personal Moment: My First Glimpse of Who I Wanted to Become

Back when I was a busy single mom, I found myself daydreaming about one day living a life of adventure and travel. Randomly, I pictured myself sipping champagne, wearing a fur coat, in front of the Eiffel Tower.

And I also saw myself living peacefully and gracefully, surrounded by nature and by culture.

I didn’t know it at the time, but this version of me was already living inside of me… and I just needed to tap into the frequency at which she lives.

I knew she was there, yet still, at the time, she also felt far away—like a future version of me I wasn’t sure how to reach.

Then, I understood that she’s already here.

This is the power of “Becoming Her.”
It’s not a chase or a performance.
It’s a remembering.

** Side note: Fast forward a few years, and I had that full circle moment, in front of the Eiffel Tower, wearing the fur coat. There was one additional surprise – I was celebrating with my future husband!

The Shift: From Longing to Living

It seems we’re conditioned to believe that transformation comes from doing more. Hustling. Fixing. Changing our lives from the outside in.

But the truth is more subtle and less effort, thankfully!

We just need to embody this energy. And when we do, you effortlessly become this version of ourselves.

Most important key to remember:
She already exists in a timeline your body, heart, and spirit can access.
She’s not a fantasy. She’s a frequency.

This reminds me of Abraham Hicks and the vortex. The vortex is an energy field where everything already exists.

Becoming her isn’t about pretending—it’s about aligning.

Dr. Joe Dispenza is one of my all-time favorite teachers, and he refers to the concept that your “future self already exists”, which is echoed in quantum theory and consciousness studies.

I love his meditations and books. He says,  “Whatever it is that is your vision, you’re just going to have to be passionate enough to invest your attention and your energy into that future, over and over again, until all of a sudden, you start seeing feedback in your life.“

His work urges us to release and let go of the “habit of being ourselves” and to allow ourselves to become someone new, something higher in the quantum field.

Learn more about him here.

I think it’s a relief to know there is a science of ‘Becoming Her’

You don’t have to take my word for it.
There’s powerful research that supports this idea of stepping into your future self.

Visualization Activates the Brain

A fascinating Harvard study by Dr. Pascual-Leone found that participants who imagined playing piano experienced the same brain changes as those who physically practiced.

So, basically, your brain doesn’t fully distinguish between imagined experience and real life.

Think about how wild this is!

By visualizing a version of yourself and becoming her even in just small ways, you begin to influence your brain patterns.

When you picture her clearly—what she wears, how she speaks, what she knows—you begin building the mental and emotional pathways to become her.

This is exciting news!

Identity Drives Behavior

Behavioral experts like James Clear (author of Atomic Habits) remind us: “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you want to become.”

Change that sticks isn’t about willpower. It’s about identity.

This may be feeling a bit too science-y, but it’s so helpful to see that this isn’t just woo-woo.

I actually love this area of research because it makes so much sense to me. If you identify with the version of yourself that you want: a wonderful relationship, radiant health, etc., your priorities and actions may become more second nature and aligned with that identity.

You can close the gap between who you are now and who you want to become.

When you begin to see yourself as “her,” you naturally start to make aligned choices.

Embodiment Is the Missing Link

Somatic psychologists like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Dr. Peter Levine teach that the body carries emotional truth.

When you breathe, walk, and move like her—you’re not just “acting.”

You’re teaching your nervous system who you are becoming.

This is more than a mindset.
This is whole-self alignment.

Self-Perception Theory (Social Psychology)

And on the other side of the equation, we infer our identity from our own behaviors.

Bem’s Self-Perception Theory suggests that by acting like the future self, we start to believe we are her, which reinforces future behavior.

Embracing small shifts like how she dresses, her morning routines, and how she holds boundaries aren’t just surface ideas—they reinforce identity from the outside in.

Hope Theory & Positive Psychology

And here’s the cherry on top!

 Envisioning a clear, positive future improves well-being, motivation, and action.

Dr. Charles Snyder’s Hope Theory defines hope as a combination of goal, agency, and pathways.  By committing to taking baby steps in the direction of our higher selves, we cultivate real hope! This muscle builds and fuels more resilience and thriving.

Now for my Coaching Challenge! I Want You to Consider Five Ways to Start Becoming Her Today:

1. Visualize Her Clearly
   Spend 5 minutes a day imagining your future self in vivid detail. Where is she? How is she dressed? How does she feel in her body?
2. Ask: “What Would She Choose Today?”
   Let this become your daily anchor. In every small moment—what would she say yes to? What would she lovingly decline? This question reminds me of the just aired podcast with Taylor Swift and how she talks about how you spend your energy is ‘your day.’ Check it out here.
3. Move Like Her
   Shift your posture. Speak with the kindness and certainty you imagine she carries. Let your body get familiar with her presence.
4. Change One Small Habit
   Pick a habit she would already have. Maybe it’s drinking water first thing. Maybe it’s less screen time. Begin there.
5. Talk to Yourself Like She Would
   Drop the self-criticism. What would she say to you on a hard day? Say it now.

And Lastly, Flip the Lens: A Reflection for You

Are you waiting for the partner to arrive?
The dream job to land?
Your ideal life in any way, shape, or form?

You don’t have to wait anymore.

Becoming her begins with one small, soul-aligned choice at a time.

You can begin today.

So, what did you think?

Are you ready to embrace this higher version of yourself?

For more inspiration on visualization and manifesting your dreams, explore these vision book ideas.

🎧 And if you haven’t already, tune into this week’s Her New Lens podcast episode:
“Becoming Her: The Future You Who Already Has What You Want”

Then send me a message—who is your “Her”?
I’d love to know.

With vision and love,
Tricia