Somehow it took me 36 years to hear this lesson: The energy you give is what you get.
I can remember the day. I was driving along an endless highway, commuting to a remote nursing home in upstate New York. During my long, sometimes even 2-hour commutes, I would listen to XM radio for entertainment.
Over time, I found myself getting hooked on Oprah’s lineup. I began listening to and studying Marianne Williamson as she led listeners through each Course in Miracles lesson.
One surprisingly frigid April day, I heard lesson number 108. It said:
“To give and receive are one in truth.
I will receive what I am giving now.”
Williamson gave a personalized description of what this lesson meant to her. Then she instructed us to repeat the following sentences quietly:
(You can say “everyone,” or you can name a specific person.)
To everyone, I offer quietness.
To everyone, I offer peace of mind.
To everyone, I offer gentleness. (ACIM, W-108.8:6-8)
The secret ingredient here is we are the only ones actually here. So the energy we vibrate and send to others is the energy we live within.
I know! This can seem so hard, and I’m the first to admit that this is exceptionally challenging to do with people who have hurt you. But, it’s the only way to have peace truly.
Let’s break it down:
Giving comes from a place beyond our small ego-minded thoughts.
Giving generously to others comes from our large, universal heart. It extends beyond the drama of everyday life.
Even if I’m angry with someone, I can step back and offer them this wish for quietness, peace of mind, and gentleness.
Feeling this way allows me to connect more deeply with myself and my true nature.
Here’s an example that comes to mind for me:
There’s someone from my past whose behaviors have deeply hurt me (let’s call her Annabel). I often feel pain and frustration when I think of her. It feels impossible to give her grace.
Yet, when I dig down deep enough to send her peace of mind, I feel less burdened. I feel relief. I feel lighter and happier. I learn from my own experience that the energy I give is exactly what I get.
Receiving matches the same energy as giving.
“Take inspiration from Maya Angelou. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, she was once asked why she never doubted herself despite the hardships she faced. She answered that she came to realize that God loved her, and from that point on, she no longer had doubts. Because if God loves her, how could she doubt herself?
You are worthy of all that you receive.”
Receiving requires a state of worthiness. You are open to receiving kind words, thoughts, and deeds. Receiving softens your heart while lifting your self-esteem.
When you see the worthiness you have within; you see that same worthiness in others. They are worthy of your kindness. You are worthy of peace of mind.
To give and receive are one – The energy you give is what you get.
“The universe operates through dynamic exchange . . . giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. And in our willingness to give what we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives.” –Deepak Chopra.
I can’t receive peace of mind if I’m unwilling to offer peace of mind to you.
I can’t receive gentleness if I’m unwilling to extend that energy to you.
The more I can let go and get past the limitations of my wounded self, the more peace, happiness, and joy I can experience in every moment of my life.
Give it a try. Extend the peace and joy you wish to see out to others and watch what happens.