Have you ever experienced that “impossible to explain” feeling of chemistry, connection, and attraction for another person? That intense energy may indicate that you are in the presence of a soulmate.
The term ‘soul mate’ may bring you intense feelings of joy. Or, you may find the term cringy and overly romanticized, like in the Tom Cruise/Renee Zellwegger Jerry Maguire moment.
You may also feel a heightened anticipation, eagerly hoping to meet your soulmate in this lifetime.
Soulmates are here to introduce us to our higher selves.
What if you were to discover that there are several types of soulmates?
If you believe in a loving, benevolent universe, it makes sense that soulmates are sent to enhance your life and help you attain the highest version of yourself. And in the process, we get the chance to learn about love in all its forms.
In fact, we may already have soulmates in our lives without even realizing it!
These soulmates might not be obvious. But, on closer look, you may recognize them in the different relationships that impact you daily.
Still, together they inform and enhance your life in many ways.
Being open to viewing soulmates in all their facets gives us an expansive view of what they mean to us. The universe has sent them our way for a reason! Let’s take a look at some examples:
1. The Friendship Soulmate is chosen family.
These friends effortlessly come into our lives and meet us exactly where we are. There may be instant recognition. This person seamlessly flows into your life, and it feels like you’ve known them forever.
The sense of connection brings joy and fulfillment to our days. Celebrating special days like birthdays, weddings, and all other milestones with this person in the room makes life more meaningful and fulfilling.
There is common ground, and you find you’re often on the same page. You may even find you have the same life goals.
I think of these relationships as being easy, with very little drama. You easily accept each other’s differences. There is a resonance, and the connection is effortless and smooth.
As we traverse this earthly plane, we need people who accept and understand us.
We can enjoy life together with fun, play, and ease. The friendship soulmate is precisely that person.
This best friend soulmate relationship reminds me of Oprah and Gayle.
2. Karmic or Teacher Soulmate is here to teach us a lesson!
The term karma refers to “the spiritual principle of cause and effect, often descriptively called the principle of karma, wherein an individual’s intent and actions (cause) influence that individual’s future (effect).”
So, it seems that a karmic soulmate is energetically drawn into our lives to help us clear our karma.
Alternatively, this person’s presence is a gift (positive karma) that the universe graciously sends our way in gratitude as a reward for the pure, loving energy we’ve brought into the world.
These soulmates come into and out of our lives, sometimes in various forms. We feel deeply connected to this person.
What they all have in common, hidden underneath, are lessons. When karma is painful, we learn where we’re carrying old wounds so that we can then begin to heal.
When this soulmate brings positive karma, we witness and learn about the purity and power that a generous soul can have. We can see our kindness and beauty reflected in them.
These relationships don’t last.
Another commonality among these soulmates is that the relationship doesn’t last. They teach the lesson they came into our lives to teach, and then they disappear. This transience makes the interaction powerful, leaving an indelible mark on us.
We can try to avoid this soulmate, but it won’t work. These soul partners bring lessons that will just come in another form until learned.
Most importantly, we need to remember that underneath all of this is love. Love calls us to grow, evolve, and expand into who we can be.
When I think of these soul mates, I’m reminded of Carol and Therese in Carol.
3. Companion Soulmates bring ease and lightness into our lives.
This relationship can be romantic or platonic, such as with a family member or friend. There is effortless ease within this partnership. Your life goals align. The connection feels like “two birds of a feather.”
You enjoy harmony and grace together and are in tune with each other’s feelings. And the sense of easy connection is enduring.
If you haven’t met your twin flame, this soulmate provides many qualities you seek in a long-term relationship. Because you are wired similarly, life flows when you’re together.
There’s something to be said for sharing similar perspectives on the things that matter. That’s what this person brings into your life.
This relationship has longevity. You share similar the same life goals. You will remain connected, even if you aren’t in a romantic union. The comfort and kindred energy you share will always guide you toward each other. Although not as intense a connection, the relationship brings a lot of warmth, joy, and happiness into your life.
I’m thinking of Sally and Harry in When Harry Met Sally.
4. The Wrecking Ball Soulmate offers unexpected gifts. We see ourselves sometimes for the first time.
This soulmate is not someone who comes into our lives peacefully – they enter to shake things up. There is a clear “before them” and “after them” distinction when we look back on our lives and realize that we are now entirely different from the day we met them.
But don’t be fooled! You likely have a soul contract with this person, and they’re in your life for a reason.
An experience with a wrecking ball soulmate provides a powerful opportunity for deep healing and growth. The relationship may be excruciating.
Our wrecking ball soulmate holds up a mirror that forces us to see all the things about ourselves that we typically avoid and don’t want to acknowledge or feel.
A painful but deeply healing soulmate experience.
This relationship will bring to the surface all of our insecurities. We can’t begin to heal these dysfunctional patterns until we know they are there. The wrecking ball soulmate shines the light on them as a gift to us so that we can begin to heal and move forward.
This connection feels as though we’ve been ripped wide open. We may feel raw and uneasy after it’s had its way with us. But, by shining a light on places we need to grow and heal, this relationship has the potential to bring deep healing – after it’s over!
Here, I am thinking of Cindy and Dean from Blue Valentine.
5. The Lover’s Soulmate is passionate but not enduring.
When we cross over into intimate love without the enduring love and security of a deeper connection, we are in for a tumultuous experience in the lover-soulmate territory. The intimate component can bring out a more profound layer of emotional angst.
Eckhart Tolle says, “Unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, particularly intimate relationships, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional.”
The relationships vacillate between feeling “in love” and feeling the myriad of negative emotions, including jealousy, anger, etc., that occur on the other side of those euphoric feelings.
The relationships often swing back and forth between these two states.
Although there may be extended periods of happiness, this relationship won’t last. There may be a lot of highs, but there will also be lows. Through this romantic love relationship, we learn important lessons that will be meaningful down the road.
I’m thinking of Brooke and Gary from The Break-up.
6. Our Twin Flame Soulmate will teach us lessons, but the connection is blissful and eternal.
According to Greek mythology, humans were created with four arms, four legs, and two faces. Zeus split them into two parts, fearing their power, condemning them to spend their lives searching for their other halves.
The key to finding your twin soul, according to the experts, is experience: you are at a point where you are willing to do the work necessary to begin to attract this mystical other. This work is courageous and bold.
It might even require the deep work of peeling away all the layers that previously blocked you from finding each other. But how can you recognize your “twin flame” when you don’t know yourself? It’s all part of the process.
It’s fabled that there are stages that you will go through. Some include: the first meeting, falling in love, turmoil, separation, and ultimately reunion. Therefore, when you have that moment of recognition, it doesn’t mean it will be an effortless relationship.
However, in the end, it will all be worth it. When you can finally live together, you experience a love so pure and profound that everything will make sense. This love is a gift from above.
Not only will you be able to celebrate the love you’ve found in this lifetime, but you will also feel the joy of knowing that you may find each other again and again in other lifetimes.
This is true love.
I’m thinking of Allie and Noah from The Notebook.
Soul Connections are all gifts to be received and experienced.
People come into our lives for a reason. In fact, of the almost eight billion souls on this planet – these are the unique souls who’ve come into your life. It’s fascinating!
Seeing the opportunities, lessons, and love these souls bring with them is a helpful key to experiencing gratitude for life’s many hidden gifts and surprises.
Regardless of which type, all soulmates help us grow and become more whole, more aware, and more deeply ourselves. Each offers a lesson, elevating us towards better things in our lives.
Remember, it all comes back to you!
One of my favorite gurus, Byron Katie, says, “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.” Our soulmates have a way of allowing us, or dare I say, forcing us to have that look in the mirror.
Through these interactions, we’re able to see ourselves more clearly. We can finally recognize our wounds and where we go off-kilter. And we can connect with the joy that’s always been inside – it just needed to be seen, recognized, and set free.
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(This blog post was originally published on February 16, 2021, and has been updated for thoroughness and accuracy.)