It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki: A Thought-Provoking Guide to Personal Growth and Relationships

Jillian Turecki is a very popular relationship coach, teacher, and writer. She has 3 million followers! Jillian helps individuals and couples find greater love and connection in their lives.

Her overall style empowers readers to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.

Jillian is known for her kind and practical approach. She helps readers and clients see patterns, tackle obstacles, and build real connections. Her work focuses on emotional awareness and mindfulness. She believes that true change starts from within.

In It Begins With You, you’ll quickly learn to take responsibility for your personal growth and relationships. As you work through the book, you may feel lighter and more hopeful, realizing you have the power to create the relationships and life you want.

Jillian’s writing is relatable and easy to understand, making it accessible to readers of all backgrounds. She emphasizes the importance of self-love and setting boundaries in order to have fulfilling relationships. Her insights and exercises allow readers to reflect on their own experiences and implement healthier habits.

So, take the first step towards building stronger, more authentic relationships by diving into Jillian’s transformative book. Let her wisdom guide you on your journey toward love and connection.

Let’s get started!

Some of My Favorite Key Takeaways from Jillian Turecki’s It Begins With You:

Some of the core concepts explored in the book are:

• Learning to understand your emotional triggers. Through case-after-case examples, Jillian shows how the problems and challenges you face in relationships often begin with the stories you tell yourself. The pain points from your past lie dormant, waiting to be triggered, and can create emotional drama and distress. The more you understand what triggers your emotions, the better you can support yourself when challenges arise.

• Building self-awareness as a foundation for growth. As a former yoga teacher, Jillian urges readers to embrace self-awareness through practices like meditation, deep breathing, and movement. These tools help develop self-awareness while navigating the challenges of intimate relationships. And there will be challenges! That’s what relationships do. They guide us to our better selves by highlighting areas we need to improve.

• The importance of communication and vulnerability in relationships. As a coach myself, I’m intrigued by her coaching method in this area. She dives right in and teaches her clients directly how to communicate effectively. She often refers to the importance of vulnerability and guides clients into being more open when the situation is right.

Learn more about my coaching style here.

• Explore the relationship between self-love and how you treat others. One of the book’s most central themes is the profound connection between how you treat others and how you treat yourself. To invite more love and kindness into your life—whether through a partner or meaningful relationships—you must first cultivate deep respect and love for yourself. The two are inseparably linked.

  For tips on fostering self-love, explore this resource: How to Cultivate Self-Love at Any Age.

How It Begins With You Stands Out:

This book stands out most because of Jillian’s unique coaching style. Her no-nonsense approach is refreshing and relatable. She also offers a well-rounded approach that can help readers regardless of their current relationships.

It Begins with You is loaded with case studies and examples that reflect upon many lessons and themes. I could see myself in many of the women she has worked with. She also develops a bond with her clients, fiercely wanting the best for them. Her coaching expertise is evident.

Jillian explores nine ‘truths,’ and offers more support at the end of each chapter.  She suggests guided exercises, thought-provoking prompts, and recommended activities to help readers work through the areas they need most.

These informative exercises encourage readers to take action and create real change in their lives. It’s almost like having a personal coach sitting right beside you, giving you homework tailored to your situation.

The Power of Taking Responsibility:

Jillian often refers to the beginning of relationships, when we first decide to be in one. She creates space for her clients to think before they leap, challenging them to be discerning.

When discussing a client in a dead-end relationship, she says, “She was a grown woman, and it was her responsibility to choose an available, healthy man.” Words like these highlight the repeating theme of growing up and making sound, healthy choices.

Jillian reminds us that true transformation begins when we take responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, and actions. She says, “We cannot improve our love lives without acknowledging and confronting the saboteur inside us. Everyone has an inner saboteur, and it’s usually the teenager (or younger child) part of ourselves who always looks for ways to self-protect from hurt.”

Jillian challenges her clients to think before they leap into relationships, encouraging them to be discerning and not settle for less than what they truly deserve. This means being aware of red flags and recognizing when someone may be wrong for us. Wouldn’t that be amazing? I know I wasted SO MUCH TIME in relationships that I should never have chosen in the first place! Can any of you relate??

My Experience With Jillian Turecki’s Book and Closing Thoughts:

The material itself is not necessarily all brand new, but what makes It Begins With You unique is the way Jillian shares the information. She, her clients, their issues, and the material are incredibly relatable, and most readers will feel seen and understood through her words.

I love her recommendations at the end of each chapter because they weave together thought-provoking prompts with yoga nidra, meditation, moving your body, etc.

Also, I work with women seeking a relationship and will recommend this book to those who continue to attract unavailable partners. Jillian often refers to this scenario throughout the book, and I can’t remember another expert who makes the issue clearer. She truly guides the reader to a higher ground, where they will be way more likely to attract the love they seek.

She encourages readers to focus their attention and energy on truly healing from within. This would allow them to blossom and grow AND attract a partner who is truly worthy of them.

One more thing: My favorite quote from the book:

Through her teaching, we learn that relationships are like a mirror, reflecting back to us the lessons we need to learn. She says, “The truth is, that incredible feeling of wholeness and aliveness is an emotional state of being that comes from deep within ourselves. That deep, blissful, pure love we feel when we’re falling in love is simply a reminder of the love and joy we’re capable of experiencing. It reveals the love and passion already inside us, waiting to be recognized and awakened, without the presence of a romantic partner.”

This is such a powerful reminder that we are responsible for our own happiness and fulfillment and that true love starts with loving ourselves—not sometimes, but always!

Call to Action:

Let’s face it: we all want to find that perfect soulmate who will make us feel complete and loved. But before we can attract this person into our lives, we need to start by loving ourselves first. Take a moment to reflect on your own self-love journey. Are there areas where you can improve? What steps can you take to cultivate more self-love and acceptance?

She reminds us that the more love and happiness we have within ourselves, the more we can share with others. So, let’s continue on this journey together, allowing ourselves to grow into the best version of ourselves. When we finally attract that amazing partner who is truly worthy of us, we will know that it was because of the love we had for ourselves. And that is the ultimate win!

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