Let’s start this off by talking about our energy fields.

According to Dr. Lawrence Wilson, “The energy field of a person is the emanation of subtle energy from the body. It is an electrical field that radiates a slight glow around a person and all living things.”

A strong connection can occur when our energy field resonates deeply with another’s, creating a feeling of unity that goes beyond ordinary interactions.

So, as crazy as it is to imagine, we’re basically energetic beings encountering others all the time.

Still, what exactly is it that allows you to vibe with and connect to different people uniquely? The Answer: It’s all part of your energy.

The idea of energetic connection is hard to explain, as it goes beyond words and is felt more than described. The vibe you experience in another person’s company is actually your energy reacting and responding to theirs.

Can you remember a time when you’ve experienced an unexplainable metaphysical connection with someone? You’re attracted to the energy they embody. A strong connection or feeling deeply connected can be the first thing you notice when meeting someone whose energy matches yours.

Let’s get into it more…

First, An Introduction to Energetic Connection:

An energetic connection with someone is one of those amazing experiences that can change the course of our lives forever.

** In the romantic sense, think of soulmates and how those relationships can play out.

It’s that deep, unspoken sense that you’re truly in sync with another person, where your energy and theirs seem to dance together in perfect harmony.

This kind of connection can happen in any relationship, whether it’s romantic, platonic, or spiritual, and it often feels like you’ve discovered a new layer of understanding in the world around you.

When you feel an energetic connection with someone, it’s as if you’re both tuned into the same frequency. There’s a feeling of being seen, heard, and accepted for who you are, and this sense of connection can be both comforting and exhilarating.

Sometimes, it’s hard to put into words, but you just know that something special is happening. These connections can be a sign that you’ve met someone who will play a big role in your life, and the energy you share can leave a lasting imprint on both of your lives.

Whether it’s a fleeting moment or a bond that lasts forever, the feeling of being energetically connected is a powerful reminder of the magic that exists in human relationships.

Let’s take a look at how it feels when you connect (or vibe) with someone in a healthy and wonderful way:

You feel a sense of lightness and happiness around this person.

In their company, energy seems to move effortlessly back and forth between the two of you. There is a lightness, and you find yourself feeling at ease. Time spent together often feels effortless and enjoyable, as if hours pass by quickly.

Through these good vibes, you experience compatibility and attractive energy that flows naturally.

You can even access more high-vibrational feelings like gratitude, joy, and excitement in the presence of this person. Sharing humor and laughter can deepen the sense of lightness and happiness.

Likewise, you may feel more connected with yourself and be able to enjoy a deeper and more peaceful, loving, and natural state.

You’re able to let go of your story – your ego – in their presence. 

Being able to let go of feelings of competition is a powerful sign that you’re truly connecting with someone. When you’re comparing yourself to another, you’re likely feeling insecure. Negative energy in the form of feelings of shame, inadequacy, and overall yuck takes over.

But when you’re energetically connecting with someone, you experience a sense of freedom. When you are honest with each other, you can let go of your fears and are not afraid to show your true self.

You can exhale. You see each other as equals, and there’s no need to compare.

Spending time together brings you into the present moment.

In the same vein, being with this person brings you directly into the present moment. You aren’t stuck in the past, overthinking what you’re saying and feeling.

And you’re not anticipating the future, wondering what you will say or do next. Instead, this person’s energy resonates with yours, and you can enjoy the here and now.

Being in the moment allows you to feel free, spontaneous, and happy. When you are truly present with someone, your other worries and distractions seem to disappear. Because, as Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Life is available only in the present moment.”

You can be quiet together.

Interestingly, being able to be still with someone is a sure sign of vibing. You’re so comfortable with this person that you don’t even need to speak.

Shared silence can be just as meaningful as conversation, deepening the connection that leads to genuine understanding. Just “being” with them is sometimes enough.

Energetically, you’re connected and creating space for quietude, with no need to fill in the gaps. You’re energetically connected when you can be with someone and feel a quiet sense of contentment.

You feel safe sharing more about yourself.

When in the company of this person, your walls come down. It’s easier to be vulnerable around them, to share a range of feelings you may have, and to feel that you are being heard.

You can reveal things to them and feel freer after having done so. You feel truly accepted and supported by this person, knowing they embrace your authentic self and offer genuine emotional backing.

There is safety in this connection.

Because your vibes and energy come from your entire being, this isn’t something you know in your head but rather something you feel in your heart and your gut. Being aware of each other’s feelings helps strengthen this sense of safety and deepens the connection.

There is no feeling like this in the world!

By feeling someone’s energy, you can connect on many different levels.

At times, you’re able to joke around and be silly with this person, and the next minute, you’re able to share something that’s on your mind and bothering you. Open communication and the ability to talk freely are key to this connection.

Equal energy exchange is happening. You can feel your own feelings completely. You may have talked for hours without even noticing the time pass, thanks to the depth of your shared experiences.

In the course of a day, so many things can come up. With this person, it’s okay to share everything without fear of being judged.

The way you both respond to each other’s feelings and stories strengthens your bond. Because you’re able to let your walls come down, you can communicate on different levels with ease and spontaneity.

You know that this person truly wants the best for you.

Because this connection is pure, you don’t see them as above you or beneath you, but rather as an equal. This mutual respect forms the foundation of a unique bond between you.

Within that connection is pure affection and a genuine feeling of wanting the best for each other.

You feel drawn to one another as equals. There is a soul connection, and you seem to ride on the same spiritual wavelength.

Your vibes elevate in their company.

You’re able to access higher and higher vibes with this person. Inside, we are all vibing high – but our stories, beliefs, and sometimes old emotional wounds can bring us down.

Being with this person allows you to feel a resonance that may lift you higher and even carry you out of a negative state.

In fact, a goal is to surround yourself with people who keep you balanced in your natural frequency or uplift you into a higher one.

Being with them reminds you of your true nature. It’s a very good vibe. Surrounding yourself with people like this can help you maintain high energy and positivity in your life.

You feel happy, content, and at peace after spending time together.

I wish I’d known this years ago! Isn’t this the truth?

Because the energy between you is pure and loving, you always feel elevated after spending time together, even if you’re going through something difficult.

These are the kinds of moments you never forget, as they leave a lasting impression on your heart. When the energy isn’t aligned, you will feel a nagging sense that something’s off. You know deep down that you weren’t connected in a good way.

If you find yourself second-guessing things you said or didn’t say, the energy isn’t well matched. You probably aren’t feeling safe in someone’s energy. The atmosphere and mood aren’t aligning with you.

On the other side, when you’re connecting on a pure level, you leave interactions feeling at peace – even if you said too much. Your person understands, and you don’t have to worry.

Feeling safe in someone’s energy is key. Sometimes, the answer to what you need is simply being in the presence of someone who truly understands you.

Here are some more ideas to consider:

The experience of an instant connection:

Have you ever met someone and felt like you’ve known them your whole life? That’s the magic of an instant connection.

It’s as if you slip right into your own skin when you’re with them—no awkwardness, no need to pretend.

Conversations flow effortlessly, laughter comes easily, and you find yourself sharing stories and dreams as if you were old friends reuniting after years apart.

This sense of familiarity is unmistakable. Whether it’s a friend, a romantic partner, or even a family member you’re meeting for the first time, the presence of an instant connection makes the world around you fade away.

You feel completely at ease, and there’s a comfort in their presence that’s hard to describe. It’s like coming home, and every moment spent together feels meaningful.

Instant connections are a great reminder that sometimes, the most meaningful relationships can happen in the blink of an eye, changing the way we experience life and the world around us.

Connection isn’t just a want. It’s something we need for our health.

A study from Harvard’s School of Public Health states:

“Researchers agree that social connection can help people live longer and healthier lives. Being socially disconnected, for example, is associated with higher risk of illnesses, including heart disease, stroke, anxiety, depression, and dementia.”

So, your need to feel connected is coming from a real need for your overall well-being.

Keeping our energy clear:

Keeping our energy clear and vibrating high is our job. When we can keep our vibes high, we can attract people with higher and higher energies.

But maintaining high vibes can take work.

Take time to find out what you need to do to keep your vibration clear and true, just like you!

As you do this work, whether it be meditation, breathwork, journaling, studying, etc., you will find new people entering your life that reflect the higher state that you’ve attained.

You can also bring your highest self to the connections you already have and help to energetically shift loved ones into a higher state as they feel your vibes, sending them kindness and love.

Coaching tips on bringing more energetically connected and aligned relationships into your life:

• Start by focusing on your energy field. Ask yourself, “What energy am I bringing into a room when I enter?” Take an honest inventory. Are you guarded, anxious, or a people pleaser? Or are you deeply grounded in your sense of self-worth?
• Your body is your first intuitive guide – we call it your body compass in coaching. Ask yourself, “Am I tuned into my body and how it feels when I’m around others?” Practice doing body scans to learn from your body’s vast intelligence.
• Get clear on how true alignment feels in your body so that you can recognize it when it presents. Ask yourself, “What does true connection feel like in my body?” And, “When did I last feel fully myself in the presence of someone else?”
• Clear up the old energy that may be sending mixed signals. Ask yourself, honestly, “Am I still entangled with someone who is not aligned with my true self?” If so, you need to let go of that person to open and clear your energy for healthier, more connected relationships.
• Get clear on the energy you’re seeking, and seek ways to embody it now.

How about when the energy isn’t aligned?

Energy isn’t always aligned, and figuring this out quickly is always the way to go.

Two ways to know the energy isn’t vibing:

You feel it in your body:

While you’re with this person, you feel a sense of heaviness or even anxiety. You feel like you can’t relax, and that you have to work to keep this connection going.

And, you know it in your thoughts:

You find yourself second-guessing everything. Your intuition may be telling you that something isn’t right, and you choose to listen to it.

The clues you receive may be subtle, and it takes practice and self-awareness to sometimes see things clearly. But you can learn to lean in a trust your inner guidance and save yourself a lot of time and energy!

My experience with feeling a strong sense of connection with a new friend I met 20 years ago:

I remember I was out on a blind date, of all things. The date wasn’t going well, to say the least, and he brought me to a trendy new restaurant that had communal tables for dining.

He and I sat on one side of a table, and directly across from me sat a woman whom I’d never met before. When I saw her, I felt an instant sense of connection, as if I’d known her my entire life.

We immediately started chatting, and as she told me about the work she was doing and all of her travels, I knew that we would be instant friends. The energy moved so effortlessly between us. It felt light and also very comfortable, and I felt completely at ease.

As it turns out, I never saw that guy again, but she and I became the closest of friends. We’re still very close and talk almost every week.

Closing thoughts:

Learning to recognize energetic connection is like discovering a quiet language that’s always been speaking to you. The more you notice how your body responds, when it softens, when it contracts – the more clearly you can begin to trust what feels right, and what doesn’t.

Aligned connection doesn’t require effort or performance. It invites your presence and feels like coming home to yourself in the presence of another.

If you’re beginning to notice these energetic cues – or want to learn how to tune in more deeply, you’re already on the right path. Trust that! Your energy knows, and when you align with it, the right connections begin to find you.

So, what do you think?

I hope you enjoyed this story. Do you have any thoughts on connecting with others energetically? Do you easily sense the energy of others around you?

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For now, happy vibing!

(This story was originally published on June 22, 2021, and has been updated for improved thoroughness and clarity.)